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The Parent Coordinator

Posted by Kathleen Murphy | Aug 20, 2019

A Parent Coordinator is usually a lawyer or psychologist that is appointed by the Court to assist parents in communication and to make decisions when the parents are unable to agree.  The parties must show the Court that their case is "high conflict" and that the parents have the ability to pay for the services of a Parent Coordinator.   The statute is fairly self-explanatory:

As used in this Article, §50-90, the following terms mean:

  1. (1)  High-conflict case. – A child custody action involving minor children brought under Article 1 of this Chapter where the parties demonstrate an ongoing pattern of any of the following:

    1. Excessive litigation.

    2. Anger and distrust.

    3. Verbal abuse.

    4. Physical aggression or threats of physical aggression.

    5. Difficulty communicating about and cooperating in the care of the

      minor children.

    6. Conditions that in the discretion of the court warrant the appointment of

      a parenting coordinator.

  2. (2)  Minor child. – A person who is less than 18 years of age and who is not married or legally emancipated.

  3. (3)  Parenting coordinator. – An impartial person who meets the qualifications of G.S. 50-93. (2005-228, s. 1.)

  4. § 50-91. Appointment of parenting coordinator.

    (a) The court may appoint a parenting coordinator at any time during the proceedings of a child custody action involving minor children brought under Article 1 of this Chapter if all parties consent to the appointment. The parties may agree to limit the parenting coordinator's decision-making authority to specific issues or areas.

    (b) The court may appoint a parenting coordinator without the consent of the parties upon entry of a custody order other than an ex parte order, or upon entry of a parenting plan only if the court also makes specific findings that the action is a high-conflict case, that the appointment of the parenting coordinator is in the best interests of any minor child in the case, and that the parties are able to pay for the cost of the parenting coordinator.

    (c) The order appointing a parenting coordinator shall specify the issues the parenting coordinator is directed to assist the parties in resolving and deciding. The order may also incorporate any agreement regarding the role of the parenting coordinator made by the parties under subsection (a) of this section. The court shall give a copy of the appointment order to the parties prior to the appointment conference. Notwithstanding the appointment of a parenting coordinator, the court shall retain exclusive jurisdiction to determine fundamental issues of custody, visitation, and support, and the authority to exercise management and control of the case.

    (d) The court shall select a parenting coordinator from a list maintained by the district court. Prior to the appointment conference, the court must complete and give to the parenting coordinator a referral form listing contact information for the parties and their attorneys, the court's findings in support of the appointment, and any agreement by the parties. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-92. Authority of parenting coordinator.

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    (a) The authority of a parenting coordinator shall be specified in the court order appointing the parenting coordinator and shall be limited to matters that will aid the parties:

    (1)  Identify disputed issues.

    (2)  Reduce misunderstandings.

    (3)  Clarify priorities.

    (4)  Explore possibilities for compromise.

    (5)  Develop methods of collaboration in parenting.

    (6)  Comply with the court's order of custody, visitation, or guardianship.

    (b) Notwithstanding subsection (a) of this section, the court may authorize a parenting coordinator to decide issues regarding the implementation of the parenting plan that are not specifically governed by the court order and which the parties are unable to resolve. The parties must comply with the parenting coordinator's decision until the court reviews the decision. The parenting coordinator, any party, or the attorney for any party may request an expedited hearing to review a parenting coordinator's decision. Only the judge presiding over the case may subpoena the parenting coordinator to appear and testify at the hearing.

    (c) The parenting coordinator shall not provide any professional services or counseling to either parent or any of the minor children. The parenting coordinator shall refer financial issues to the parties' attorneys. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-93. Qualifications.

    (a) To be eligible to be included on the district court's list of parenting coordinators, a person must meet all of the following requirements:

    1. Hold a masters or doctorate degree in psychology, law, social work, counseling, medicine, or a related subject area.

    2. Have at least five years of related professional post-degree experience.

    3. Hold a current license in the parenting coordinator's area of practice, if applicable.

    4.  Participate in 24 hours of training in topics related to the developmental stages of children, the dynamics of high-conflict families, the stages and effects of divorce, problem solving techniques, mediation, and legal issues.

    (b) In order to remain eligible as a parenting coordinator, the person must also attend parenting coordinator seminars that provide continuing education, group discussion, and peer review and support. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-94. Appointment conference.

    (a) The parties, their attorneys, and the proposed parenting coordinator must all attend the appointment conference.

    (b) At the time of the appointment conference, the court shall do all of the following:

    1.  Explain to the parties the parenting coordinator's role, authority, and responsibilities as specified in the appointment order and any agreement entered into by the parties.

    2.  Determine the information each party must provide to the parenting coordinator.

    3.  Determine financial arrangements for the parenting coordinator's fee to be paid by each party and authorize the parenting coordinator to charge any party separately for individual contacts made necessary by that party's behavior.

    4.  Inform the parties, their attorneys, and the parenting coordinator of the rules regarding communications among them and with the court.

    5.   Enter the appointment order.

    (c) The parenting coordinator and any guardians ad litem shall bring to the appointment conference all necessary releases, contracts, and consents. The parenting coordinator must also schedule the first sessions with the parties. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-95. Fees.

    (a) The parenting coordinator shall be entitled to reasonable compensation from the parties for services rendered and to a reasonable retainer. The parenting coordinator may request a hearing in the event of a fee dispute.

    (b) The court may make the appointment of a parenting coordinator contingent upon the parties' payment of a specific fee to the parenting coordinator. The parenting coordinator shall not begin any duties until the fee has been paid. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-96. Meetings and communications.

    Meetings between the parenting coordinator and the parties may be informal and ex parte. Communications between the parties and the parenting coordinator are not confidential. The parenting coordinator and the court shall not engage in any ex parte communications. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-97. Reports.

    (a) The parenting coordinator shall promptly provide written notification to the court, the parties, and attorneys for the parties if the parenting coordinator makes any of the following determinations:

    1.  The existing custody order is not in the best interests of the child.

    2.  The parenting coordinator is not qualified to address or resolve certain issues in the case.

    (b) The court shall schedule a hearing and review the matter no later than two weeks following receipt of the report. The parenting coordinator shall remain involved in the case until the hearing.

    (c) If the parties agree to any fundamental change in the child custody order, the parenting coordinator shall send the agreement to the parties' attorneys for preparation of a consent order. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-98. Parenting coordinator records.

    (a) The parenting coordinator shall provide the following to the attorneys for the parties and to the parties:

    1. A written summary of the developments in the case following each meeting with the parties.

    2. Copies of any other written communications.

    (b) The parenting coordinator shall maintain records of each meeting. These records may only be subpoenaed by order of the judge presiding over the case. The court must review the records in camera and may release the records to the parties and their attorneys only if the court determines release of the information contained in the records will assist the parties with the presentation of their case at trial. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-99. Modification or termination of parenting coordinator appointment.

    (a) For good cause shown, the court may terminate or modify the parenting coordinator appointment upon motion of either party at the request of the parenting coordinator, upon the agreement of the parties and the parenting coordinator, or by the court on its own motion. Good cause includes any of the following:

    1. Lack of reasonable progress over a significant period of time despite the best efforts of the parties and the parenting coordinator.

    2. A determination that the parties no longer need the assistance of a parenting coordinator.

    3. Impairment on the part of a party that significantly interferes with the party's participation in the process.

    4.  The parenting coordinator is unable or unwilling to continue to serve.

    (b) If the parties agreed to the appointment of the parenting coordinator under G.S. 50-91(a), the court may terminate or modify the appointment according to that agreement or according to a subsequent agreement by the parties. (2005-228, s. 1.)

    § 50-100. Parenting coordinator immunity.

    A parenting coordinator shall not be liable for damages for acts or omissions of ordinary negligence arising out of that person's duties and responsibilities as a parenting coordinator. This section does not apply to actions arising out of the operation of a motor vehicle. (2005-228, s. 1.)

About the Author

Kathleen Murphy

Kathleen Murphy is graduate of North Carolina State University with a B.A. in Political Science, 1985. She attended Campbell University Law School and received her Juris Doctorate, 1988. Ms. Murphy has been a family law attorney for over 30 years and has limited her practice solely to family law since 1988. On October 1, 2023, Kathleen accepted a position as a senior attorney with Triangle Divorce Lawyers and she can be reached at [email protected]. Ms. Murphy is a member of the North Carolina State Bar, North Carolina Bar Association, NCBA Family Law Section Member, is a trained Family Financial Mediator and a trained Child's Advocate. Ms. Murphy is married to a City of Raleigh Firefighter and has four children, three daughters and a son. Ms. Murphy is a contributor to an International podcast. Crime Stories with Nancy Grace is broadcasted daily and you can hear Ms. Murphy's comments on cases involving victims of family crimes and the impact of family court.